Working with women’s groups in Kpachi for four months taught me a lot of lessons. Even though I observed and have been associated with similar challenges in my own community, but this was way too extreme and, until date, I still bear with them. Kpachi is one of the communities I admire their zeal and hopefulness in a better tomorrow. It has a population of about 577 inhabitants. Their settlement can be described as clustered. Despite living close to other significant communities, they are marginalized when it comes to access to social amenities such as water supply, electricity, and road network. The absence of these and many other social amenities hinder the development of the community, and it is a major worry to the residents.
Today as I sat down to reflect, I ended up having more questions than answers. Maybe someone out there might be able to help me out. Why can’t we be open-minded and speak about sex? Why is everyone quiet about it, including myself? How long is this silence going to last? Moreover, how many more girls do we want to see in this situation: school drop out, single parenting and many others? A visit to my hometown, and having had a close interaction with this young single mother and a school drop out triggered my reflections today.
I had great childhood memories only in the rural area, memories that can never depart from me.
Sometimes you need to stop complaining about the situation and appreciate life. Staying positive paves the way for one to see opportunities instead of limitations. While Lydia was confronted with fear, her Godfather told a story, which intended to encourage her to appreciate and embrace life with a positive attitude. It goes like, “When I was a high school boy, most of my classmates were from well-to-do families. I sometimes felt as a teenager that life was unfair, and mine could have been better too.